Marital Conflicts & Relationship Issues
Long term intimate relationships such as marriage require much work. After the initial attraction and romantic feelings of being in love wane, living together brings up practical issues to be resolved due to individual differences.
No two persons are exactly alike, just as similarities were striking enough to bring about an attraction, differences in communication, personal habits, dealing with finances and so starts to emerge as the relationship ages.
As expressed emotionality becomes more intense, some experience serious problems such as violence and extra-marital affairs. These not only threaten the wellbeing of partners but also everyone in the family. Partners and family members might be in need of external help to stabilise and help them feel safe.
The strength of a relationship lies not in having no conflicts but in successfully resolving conflicts and learning to adapt in a healthy way. Good communication, anger management skills and emotional maturity can help to prevent these differences from escalating into a wedge between partners.
A psychologist or a marriage counsellor can help you through this process through couples therapy, also referred to as marriage counselling. You may benefit from seeking help.
When to seek help
Some of the common signs that a relationship could benefit from couples therapy or marriage counselling are
- when the partners barely talking or connecting with one another, or have frequent & intense arguments
- sex life has come to a stop or has dramatically reduced
- when partners lead separate lives, even though living under one roof
- when one is contemplating or having an extramarital affair
- lack of intimacy, affection and trust between partners
- when one partner feels excessively controlled or not respected by the other
WHAT HAPPENS DURING COUPLES THERAPY OR MARRIAGE COUNSELLING
Couples Therapy aims at partners developing a deeper understanding of each other while appreciating the strengths and vulnerabilities of the relationship. At Psynaptica, Our psychologists and counsellors work with the couple as well as individual partners to facilitate this. We focus on key areas such as communication, control and power to help the partners develop strategies to resolve the conflicts and strengthen the relationship.
If you believe your relationship will benefit from Couples therapy, you can call us on +65 6779 0660 or please feel free to contact us on one of the options below.